Don’t look past my disabled body – Love it!

When I was younger, I vowed that I would never have a relationship with another disabled person. Certainly until I was about 17, I was kind of “in the closet” about disability. I knew I had one – heck, I got my first motorised wheelchair when I was 2½ – but I did my...

Tantra as a Healing Therapy

My name is Dr. Rafe Eric Biggs and I am a psychologist, somatic educator, filmmaker, and social activist. I am also a quadriplegic from a spinal cord injury that I experienced in 2004 while on spiritual retreat in India that left me paralyzed from the chest down. One...

My First Lover

In 2004 I experienced a spinal cord injury while on spiritual retreat in India that left me paralyzed from the chest down. One of my first thoughts was “I will every walk again?” While this is a primary concern for anyone with a spinal cord injury, the second...

Erotic Energy as Catalyst for Healing

I just experienced a new profound level of healing today through what I am calling erotic bodywork. I met an extraordinary woman whom I will call Joy through a mutual friend. We met several weeks ago over lunch where I was describing my research on sex and disability....

Many Ways to Make Love

In the last couple years I have had the opportunity to explore my sexual self with open minded and open hearted partners. Because of my spinal injury I have limited sensation feeling light touch only above my nipple line. Down below my level of injury I can feel deep...